Mindfulness

Mindfulness has been described as learning to pay attention intentionally, in the present moment, and non-judgmentally.

Mindfulness can help you manage your well being and mental health.  It can enable you to:

  • feel less overwhelmed
  • improve your sleep quality
  • positively change the way you think and feel about your experiences (especially stressful experiences)
  • increase your ability to manage difficult situations
  • make wiser choices
  • reduce levels of anxiety, depression & stress
  • reduce the amount you ruminate (chew things over in your mind)
  • develop greater self-compassion

I am a certified and experienced teacher of Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (see below for more details). I maintain my own personal mindfulness practice through daily formal and informal practice and participation in mindfulness meditation retreats. In 2018 I became a UK Network Mindfulness Approved MBCT Teacher. This means that I was able to demonstrate (via an assessment process) that I am suitably trained, committed to continuous professional development, hold the appropriate insurance and receive supervision for my mindfulness teaching.

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Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (MBCT)

I am a certified teacher of MBCT which has been tested and proven effective in clinical trials throughout the world, to assist those who suffer repeated bouts of depression help themselves prevent the depression from returning. In the UK, the Government’s National Institute for Health and Clinical Excellence (NICE) recommended MBCT in their Guidelines for Management of Depression (2004, 2009) for people who have had three or more episodes of depression.

MBCT can help you:

  • Become familiar with the workings of your mind
  • Notice when you are at risk of getting caught in old habits of mind that re-activate downward mood spirals
  • Explore ways of releasing yourself from those old habits and, if you choose, enter a different way of being
  • Notice small beauties and pleasures in the world around you instead of living in your head
  • Be kind to yourself instead of wishing things were different all the time, or driving yourself to meet impossible goals.
  • Discover a way so you don’t have to battle with yourself all the time
  • Accept yourself as you are, rather than judging yourself all the time

1:1 MBCT: I can integrate mindfulness as appropriate into your 1:1 treatment sessions if this is something you are interested in and it is likely to be helpful.

Mindful Parenting Courses (locally and online)

As well as training in MBCT, I have advanced, specialist training in Mindful Parenting based on the scientifically grounded work of Susan Bögels founder of the Mindful Parenting Method. Research shows that mindfulness can be helpful for both parent and child.

Mindful parenting can help you:

  • Become more aware of your emotions and better control your reactions
  • Resolve conflicts better with your child
  • Develop trust as the cornerstone of your relationship with your child
  • Recognise & change patterns from your own upbringing
  • Bring more kindness and compassion to moments with your child

I co-facilitate online and in-person (Nottingham-based) 8 week Mindful Parenting courses. See our website for further information: https://mindful-parenting.co.uk/

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Feedback from clients who have attended Mindfulness Groups I teach:

"A safe place to learn"

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‘The [mindfulness] course was not what I expected but in a good way! It’s taught me how to be more ‘in the moment’, to take a step back, be more aware of how my thoughts tend to command my actions. I notice flowers, smells, how lucky I am to experience the small things in life. Beverley and Rachel were wonderful, kind teachers, no pressure, just a safe place to learn for two hours. I think that it will certainly benefit me in my work as well as in my personal life for sure. Thank you both’.

A participant who attended an 8-week mindfulness course taught by myself and colleague Rachel Phillips

"Feel alive instead of just surviving"

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"Thank you so much for giving me the opportunity to come and learn and experience mindfulness, the journey I have been on in the last 8 weeks has transformed my mind. Thank you so much for helping me along my journey. The way you explained your experiences and the teachings has really resonated with me and I will carry these with me in my daily practice and my life. I have really looked forward to coming each week and learning more, you are two of the gentlest and most patient teachers I have come across. In the past I have suffered badly from panic attacks and anxiety and now I feel I am in control of my body, my thoughts, my emotions and feel alive instead of just surviving".

A participant who attended an 8-week mindfulness course taught by myself and colleague Rachel Phillips

A poem that speaks to me about the power of mindfulness

my brain and
heart divorced
a decade ago
over who was
to blame about
how big of a mess
I have become
eventually,
they couldn't be
in the same room
with each other
now my head and heart
share custody of me
I stay with my brain
during the week
and my heart
gets me on weekends
they never speak to one another
- instead, they give me
- the same note to pass
- to each other every week
and their notes they
send to one another always
says the same thing:
"This is all your fault"
on Sundays
my heart complains
about how my
head has let me down
in the past
and on Wednesday
my head lists all
of the times my
heart has screwed
things up for me
in the future
they blame each
other for the
state of my life
there's been a lot
of yelling - and crying
so,
lately, I've been
spending a lot of
time with my gut
who serves as my
unofficial therapist
most nights, I sneak out of the
window in my ribcage
and slide down my spine
and collapse on my
gut's plush leather chair
that's always open for me
~ and I just sit sit sit sit
until the sun comes up
last evening,
my gut asked me
if I was having a hard
time being caught
between my heart
and my head
I nodded
I said I didn't know
if I could live with
either of them anymore
"my heart is always sad about
something that happened yesterday
while my head is always worried
about something that may happen tomorrow,"
I lamented
my gut squeezed my hand
"I just can't live with
my mistakes of the past
or my anxiety about the future,"
I sighed
my gut smiled and said:
"in that case,
you should
go stay with your
lungs for a while,"
I was confused
- the look on my face gave it away
"if you are exhausted about
your heart's obsession with
the fixed past and your mind's focus
on the uncertain future
your lungs are the perfect place for you
there is no yesterday in your lungs
there is no tomorrow there either
there is only now
there is only inhale
there is only exhale
there is only this moment
there is only breath
and in that breath
you can rest while your
heart and head work
their relationship out."
this morning,
while my brain
was busy reading
tea leaves
and while my
heart was staring
at old photographs
I packed a little
bag and walked
to the door of
my lungs
before I could even knock
she opened the door
with a smile and as
a gust of air embraced me
she said
"what took you so long?"
~ John Roedel (johnroedel.com)

Get in contact to discuss how mindfulness might help you you

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